Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Talking about the crappy stuff

I've gotten older lately. In years, cuz I just had a birthday. 

I've seen a lot of the world. (I think I've been out of the U.S. a whopping 3 times). 

And I've experienced a whole lot of everything (you know because my life has  been so original.. Go to college get married. Teach. Have a baby)

Even though I'm mostly joking - I have experienced a few things and there have been times where my life has gotten hard. (For example Woody makes me kill spiders now all by myself)

But really, you know what helped? Talking about it. (I have to leave the room when I see a spider collect myself and then go back in and kill it).  

All of our lives are so different. And yet pretty similar. 

It is my belief that we were put on this Earth together for a purpose. People aren't meant to go at it alone. We have families and friends for a purpose, to help us through the hard times and of course to enjoy the good times. 

But how can people help us through the hard times if we don't tell them about it? Or if they are so worried about saying something that will make us upset that they say nothing at all?

I really am not the poster child for talking to people when I'm struggling. Want me to write about it? Sure! Call you and talk to you about it is a little harder for me. But I totally believe that it helps. 

I've read blogs and other things about how people should stop asking when couples are planning on starting their family.  

I totally understand that this can be a touchy topic. I also believe that it is a very personal decision that is between you and your spouse.  And people (including me) should stay out of other peoples business (except my sister heather, I'm going to continue to ask you when baby number 3 is coming until I have proof they are on their way!) 

BUT you know people will ask you! Sometimes they are just being obnoxious - but sometimes they might just be trying to get to know you, to get closer to you, to start a friendship. So why not let them in? 

The quickest way I know how to get people to stop asking you when you're having kids is to tell them! And if you don't think it's their business, tell them! I promise they won't ask again either way. 

If you've read my blog then you know I struggled getting pregnant. And the best thing I ever did was to write about it. I made friendships, got closer to current friends, and helped people I didn't even know because I talked about it. 

Sometimes I think that we try so hard to seem perfect. When people ask how we are we say "perfect!" Even when we aren't. Why not say, struggling but ok. Or man today was really hard! 

I don't think you have to tell your whole story to everyone! Or seem like a complainer. Or make things seem worse, but why not tell it how it is? Because odds are someone out there is going through the same thing and could really use a friend to help them through their trial. 

So folks. I'm keeping it real on here! So if you don't want to read about the hard times of life.... Keep reading cuz my life is easy!!! Ha ha JK 

Thank you for reading my random thoughts. As a reward here are pictures of the cutest baby currently on earth: 

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